Saying No...

So my younger brother returns home on leave. He's staying at his fiances but every day he calls up and asks "so ya wanna get drunk?" Now, this poor boy has no other way to chill out. His entire daily schedule has been turned upside down and then he's been loosed on society. It's horrible really but hey if my bro wants to kick it I'm there. Or so I thought 6 days ago. At this point I'm sick of drinking, of comments about drunken behavior and if I never see a bottle of Budweiser it will be all too soon.

This brings me to the point of this post... The ability to say "NO". Now you would think such a quiet laid back girl like myself(a little sarcasm for those who missed it) would never think of such a thing. I'm typically a let's go with the flow type of girl but this has gotten to be a little much. Sometimes you just have to say no.

Aside from not wanting to become an alcoholic, this is just not healthy behavior in general. This is one of those times when maybe no is actually better than yes. Now i hate to let down my brother, which isn't that how I ended up in this mess to begin with? And don't lie and say you've never gone along with something because you didn't want to disappoint someone. We compromise ourselves sometimes to please people- it's part of being human. But isn't part of being an enlightened being, being honest to who you are at all times??? As I'm thinking about this it just reassures that no is not always a bad thing. Below I've made a small list of when and why it's okay to say no. Feel free to add by posting a comment...

It's okay to say "NO" when:
1. what is being asked of you will later be a regret (i.e. drinking six days in a row)
2. saying yes will end up in someone being hurt- whether yourself or someone else (i.e. an affair, drug use, etc)
3. you want to (i.e. going out on a night when u have to work in the morning, or spending time with someone you don't like)

There's millions more reasons I'm sure. The point is that it's okay to stand up for yourself. People will respect you the more you respect yourself. So even if you have to stand in front of the mirror and practice it a million times till it doesn't sound funny on your tongue, the gift has now been passed to you. There is power in saying no, it's up to you to use it...

Guilt Free Blogging

Leave it to me to join a revolution and have a spiritual insight at the same time...



About the revolution:
K- I am so into this because up until today I think there were honestly 8 posts on this blog. This is about blogging care free without a set schedule everyday. I've never been one to post daily and while sometimes I wish I could post more, I just haven't been in a writing mood. Well, someone out there gets me because they started a revolution... There's so much logic behind this, it's rediculous. Click on the button above to find out more.

My Insight:
So this has got me thinking about how much guilt and extra responsibility we put on ourselves when it comes to the net. As I've never been much for blogging on the regular, I'm gonna have to look to tagging for my example in this. This last weekend I participated in a tag war. I started fretting over all these taggies I HAD to get out. People like my tags- it makes me feel good but are you serious? I had 12 offers up and ended up with about 120 names a piece I needed to tag (add names to the blank). You do the math cause I ended up with way too many to get done in a day or two.

Now, I am the first person to say hey I haven't forgotten u or i'm behind but this is the internet. I have a real life in which I have things to do. You know run a sweeper, look for a job, SLEEP etc... So I took a deep breath & stopped feeling guilty that I wasn't going to be done quickly. As I see it, you can wait a day or two for your free gift because while I feel like it's a good thing to bless you- I'm not going to have guilt over not doing it faster.

We as people put too much weight in the joys of others. This is certainly very easy to do, especially over the net. My yahoo groups bring me great joy but I doubt very seriously that the second I send an email someone reads it. These people are my friends- we have an amazing back and forth but I cannot have added guilt because I am only available to them when I am online. That's life! The only people who get more attention than my comp are my family and my lover. And bless their hearts but they let me have my computer addiction without complaint.

I create tags for me, I blog for me. You may not like my style or taste but one day something I say or make is gonna click with you. Just like the same goes for my taste towards your creations. Why should you feel guilty about not pleasing every person, when we create to please ourselves? Just something to think about....

Happy Bday Mom!

Happy Birthday Momma!

You may be getting older but you're also getting prettier! Hope your day is full of happiness!


^^tag made using alpha set I created specially for my momma.^^ notice the i love you in the corner? it even says happy bday :)

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Act quickly! This Give-A-Way ends at 9:00 a.m. EST on Tuesday, March 11, 2008.

Common Sense

It seems to me that common sense is becoming a thing of the past. We live in a society where we have to make sure everything is "pc" and triple labeled so that the idiots of our country can't sue the makers of items. News Flash: cigarettes cause cancer, wearing black at night makes you more likely to be hit by a car, and anything "fresh out the oven" is hot.

Please, don't think I'm being all righteous here. The name of the blog IS forgotten revelations. I have been duh-ing myself all week about little common sense things. The big one this week- dishes. Don't laugh at me too long for this one...

Now, anyone who knows me will tell you I absolutely hate doing dishes. I'll scrub the bathroom fifteen times before I'll be excited about cleaning a single fork. Silverware are the worst! But despite my dislike for said chore, occassionally it falls on me to clean up the kitchen. So a couple of days ago I walk into the kitchen to grab a quick bite and there is no clean silverware. I start the mumbling and then this wave of common sense hits me. While I did wash the dishes the night before, why would there be clean silverware if I didn't wash it? Aren't silverware part of the dishes?? All of a sudden I realized I wasn't upset about the fact that my brother doesn't do the dishes- I was upset that I had skipped a step and lost common sense for a moment. So I was mumbling at myself! LOL

And that is why I love this blog... It's helping me notice things like momentary lapses in common sense. And honestly isn't that all these post have been about? Something seemingly so small and duh-ish but bam it hits me like a mac truck at the randomist of moments. May you have a little more common sense and remember to wash the silverware with the rest of the dishes!



You can read the email that started this rant here.

Healling Found in Music

My mother has recently become addicted to a great song. It's called "No Air" by Jordan Sparks and Chris Brown. Now I absolutely love this song but she has been on a repeat phase and I swear I've heard it about 5 million times in the last week alone. It started to aggrivate me and then I remembered Ryan Cabrera "fall" I used to put this song on repeat and just zone out for hours. It soothed the part of me that wanted to cry.

This reminded me that music is a great form of expression as well as healling relaxation. By listening to music we are able to transport ourselves to another moment in time when everything was perfect. That dance with Bobby Joe that we wished could last forever is just one of those reasons we turn up a song we haven't heard in a long time.

Watching my mom sigh and sing along every time it started back up, I felt heart broken. How can she enjoy this torture she was bring on herself. Then I realized just how much healling it was doing for her. This was her version of "fall". She started telling stories about the guy who made her sigh when she haerd the words to "no air". This was great for me because it was my own father, who I know so little about and here she was dishing all the goofy stuff from days long past. Everytime, I've heard the sing since then I just turn it up and sing along with her.

My challenge for you today is to find a song that speaks to you mind body and soul. Put it on repeat until you can't handle it anymore. Then post a comment in response to this post. I bet you're feeling more uplifted or calmer than you were before you heard it. I bet you had a trip down memory lane back to the first time you heard this song. It doesn't matter- just let me know I'm not wrong in this theory! Hugs to all~